Masturbation: Understanding the Taboo

A History of Views on Masturbation

Throughout history, views on self-pleasure have varied. Egyptians saw it as sacred, Greeks viewed it as natural but not something to celebrate, and Romans considered it inferior to sex with a partner. In medieval Europe, masturbation was labelled sinful and harmful. However, 20th-century scholars, including sexologists Alfred Kinsey and Shere Hite, challenged negative perceptions and helped normalize masturbation.

The Stigma Remains

Despite progress, the stigma attached to masturbation persists. Negative attitudes are often shaped by societal norms, religious doctrines, and inadequate sex education. Many people consider it an unnatural act because it has no reproductive purpose. This can be bad for health if it contributes to psychological distress, including feelings of guilt and shame caused by ingrained condemnation.

The Benefits of Masturbation

Masturbation can be surprisingly educational when it comes to appreciating your body. It’s not just about pleasure; it’s about self-discovery and understanding your sexual response and anatomy while accepting that vulvas and penises come in all shapes and sizes. Masturbation offers a safe, judgment-free way to explore and understand your body without any risk of pregnancy or STIs.

Benefits for Mental Health

Connecting with your body, including your genitalia, can also help you feel more at ease in your own skin and boost your confidence. Understanding what works for you can feel liberating. It also makes it easier to communicate your needs and desires to others. By empowering yourself, you can take charge of your sexual experiences and fully embrace ownership of your body.

Masturbation in Sex Therapy

In sex therapy, masturbation is often included as a therapeutic tool. For example, clients may be asked to engage in masturbation exercises, such as using techniques like mindfulness to focus on sensations that help them reconnect with their body and understand what sensations lead to pleasure. This can be especially beneficial for anyone experiencing difficulty with orgasm.

Health Benefits

Masturbation is also associated with other health benefits. For some, it can reduce stress and promote sleep. During masturbation and orgasm, hormones such as oxytocin (sometimes called the “love hormone”) and endorphins are released, which play a role in enhancing mood and feelings of relaxation. Research has even found that men who ejaculate 21 or more times a month have a 31% lower risk of prostate cancer.

How Much is Too Much?

As a sex and relationship therapist, I am often asked: “How much masturbation is too much?” There is no right answer to that. Masturbation can be a healthy way to seek pleasure and for some people to cope with emotions like stress. However, if it becomes the primary or only means of emotional regulation, it may start to feel compulsive. When this leads to a sense of loss of control, emotional distress, or negative effects on daily life, it can be an issue.

Conclusion

Masturbation is a natural act that deserves a more open and accepting understanding. By normalizing it, we can promote a healthier and more positive approach to sexuality. As we move toward a more inclusive and open understanding of sexuality, self-pleasure may one day be recognized not as something to feel guilty or ashamed about but as a natural form of self-expression.

FAQs

* Q: Is masturbation bad for my health?
A: Not necessarily. However, it can be bad for health if it contributes to psychological distress, including feelings of guilt and shame caused by ingrained condemnation.
* Q: Is it normal to feel embarrassed about masturbation?
A: Yes, it’s common. Many people feel uncomfortable discussing or acknowledging their own sexual experiences.
* Q: Can I use sex toys during masturbation?
A: Yes, sex toys can be a great way to explore and understand your body, but it’s essential to use them safely and responsibly.
* Q: Is masturbation just about pleasure?
A: No, it’s also about self-discovery, understanding your sexual response and anatomy, and accepting that vulvas and penises come in all shapes and sizes.

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