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Is it school reluctance or refusal?

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School Attendance in Australia

Last week, new national figures showed school attendance continues to be an issue in Australian schools post-COVID. In 2024, school attendance rates (the number of days students attend) for Years 1–10 was 88.3%. This is down slightly from 88.6% in 2023. Student attendance levels (the percentage of students who go for more than 90% of the time) was 59.8% in 2024, down from 61.6% in 2023. In 2019, national attendance rates were 91.4% and attendance levels were 73.1%. While these reports don’t tell us why the figures are dropping, we know school refusal is a common and growing issue.

What is School Reluctance?

Sometimes children and young people will not want to go to school, but it is not school refusal. When this is temporary and tied to a specific stressor, such as a test, social conflict, sports lesson or event like a camp or swimming carnival, it can be described as “school reluctance”. Signs can include clinginess in younger children or teenagers, as well as complaints of seemingly minor ailments such as a tummy ache, headache or “feeling sick”.

In these cases, it is important for parents to validate a child’s feelings. Using phrases such as “I can see you’re nervous about starting a new class” can make children feel seen and heard. Families should also set up predictable morning routines to help children build self-regulation skills. If you celebrate small wins, such as completing the day, or getting to school on time, you can help boost motivation and confidence. These early interventions can help avoid escalation into more significant school-related distress.

When it’s More than Reluctance

But at other times, a child’s issues with school are more serious and a child feels overwhelmed by stressors that make attending school feel threatening, unsafe and impossible. This is what is seen as “school refusal”, although some families and researchers are now using the term “school can’t” to reframe the issue and avoid blaming children in these situations. Some signs this could be happening to your child include:

  • spending significant portions of the school day in the office or sick bay
  • extreme difficulty in getting ready in the morning, even with basic tasks such as dressing or making breakfast
  • physical symptoms such as nausea or dizziness that worsen on school days, but may also be evident on weekends
  • persistent absences from school, even with encouragement and support
  • extreme emotional reactions – crying, anger or complete withdrawal – when school is mentioned

Who Can Be Impacted?

Reports show school refusal is more common in some groups, for example neurodiverse students, gender-diverse students and students born with innate variations of sex characteristics (also known as intersex variations/traits). School refusal is closely associated with social anxiety, separation anxiety and school anxiety. This anxiety can become overwhelming and trigger a student’s need to avoid the environment that is causing them emotional distress. For these students, not going to school might be a survival mechanism or a way to respond to burnout.

Supporting Your Child

If your child is refusing or can’t go to school, they need your empathy and support. Listen to them and be their advocate. Remember, you know them best. You can also:

  • seek professional help. A psychologist may help uncover and address the root causes of their distress
  • work with the school. Talk to teachers and staff about accommodations such as flexible schedules or sensory breaks, and how else they may offer inclusive, affirming and supportive learning environments
  • think outside the box. This can include prioritising wellbeing over attendance. Consider a break from schooling or alternative forms of education, which may suit your family better
  • seek support from other families. You are not alone – there are many other families who share this experience

Conclusion

School refusal is a complex issue that requires empathy, understanding and support. By recognizing the signs and seeking help, families can work together to address the root causes of school refusal and help their child return to school.

FAQs

Q: What is school reluctance?

A: School reluctance is when children and young people do not want to go to school, but it is not school refusal. It is often temporary and tied to a specific stressor.

Q: What are the signs of school refusal?

A: Signs of school refusal can include spending significant portions of the school day in the office or sick bay, extreme difficulty in getting ready in the morning, physical symptoms such as nausea or dizziness, persistent absences from school, and extreme emotional reactions.

Q: Who can be impacted by school refusal?

A: School refusal can impact any child, but it is more common in certain groups, such as neurodiverse students, gender-diverse students, and students born with innate variations of sex characteristics.

Q: What can I do to support my child?

A: You can seek professional help, work with the school to provide accommodations, think outside the box and consider alternative forms of education, and seek support from other families who share this experience.

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