Letting Go

It’s Not About Getting Rid of Stuff

Letting go does not require a trip to Goodwill or a purchase from The Container Store. Because… letting go is not something you do. It is something you stop doing.

You Stop Holding On

You stop pretending every item is precious or sentimental. You stop holding on to unworn clothes and jewelry and makeup. You stop sheltering crusty camping gear and worn-out workout equipment. You stop cherishing musty stacks of unread books and magazines. You stop storing dusty home decorations in clutter coffins. You stop buying new things that will soon turn into old clutter. You stop fantasizing that more square footage will lead to more fulfillment. You stop tethering your identity to your car and house and bank balance.

You Stop Carrying the Weight

Like carrying an oversized suitcase for a great distance, you would benefit greatly by setting down any possession that weighs you down.

It’s Not Just About Stuff

However… letting go extends beyond your material clutter. If you truly want to let go…

You Stop Binding Yourself

You stop binding yourself to toxic relationships. You stop acting like busyness is a good thing. You stop trying to “fix” every imaginary problem. You stop turning to breaking news for information. You stop mistaking information for wisdom. You stop posturing as if achievements make you, you. You stop assuming that success equals satisfaction. You stop chasing happiness because you finally realize that externalities will never satiate your insatiable desire for more.

You Stop Holding On

You see, letting go is not something you do. It happens naturally when you stop clinging. Like clutching a hot coal in your hand, you must stop holding on to stop the pain.

The Consequences of Clinging

No matter the fixation—be it possessions or people or prosperity—clinging always leads to suffering. Always. Yet when you let go of the clinging, you pick up freedom, peace, equanimity. But if you hold on, you will get dragged.

Conclusion

Letting go is not a destination; it’s a process. It’s a choice to stop holding on to the things that weigh you down, whether it’s physical clutter or emotional baggage. By letting go, you can find freedom, peace, and equanimity.

FAQs

Q: What does it mean to stop holding on?
A: It means to release your attachment to things, people, and ideas that no longer serve you.

Q: How do I stop holding on?
A: Start by identifying what you’re holding on to and why. Then, take small steps to release your attachment and let go.

Q: What happens when I let go?
A: You may experience feelings of freedom, peace, and equanimity. You may also feel a sense of loss or grief, but this is a natural part of the process.

Q: Is letting go easy?
A: No, it’s not always easy. But it’s worth it.